Back in the day when my mother graduated high school, she had to wait 10 years, and sometimes even longer, to see what her former classmates were up to. She had to anxiously show up to her high school reunion, or randomly run into them at the grocery store, or pick up the telephone to call them (and hope the phone number hadn’t been disconnected), to find out what was happening in their life.
I, however, have to see what my former classmates are doing EVERY FREAKING DAY. There is no point of a high school reunion- I already know who has kids, who is gay, who got married, who got divorced,who purchased their first home, who is a diabetic, who died, who hates Taylor Swift, and who went to Burger King for lunch. The answers to every question that I could ever have are on my newsfeed. And if I’m brutally honest….. it used to make me feel like I was loser who was falling behind.
If you are reading this and are currently feeling like the “life loser” who has fallen behind, ask yourself WHO TOLD YOU THAT LIE?
I want you to know that right now, at this moment, today you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Stop comparing your life to other peoples. If you don’t make as much money as you’d like to, if you don’t have the nicest car, if you feel like great things are happening to everyone but you, if you are sick of the student loan people calling your phone and sending you letters reminding you that you’re delinquent (as if you don’t already know), or if you are stressing about not having a hot husband and gorgeous wedding pics to post on Facebook, chill out. And take a social media detox for a while. It’s a liar filling your head with half-truths.
I noticed how much happier and content I became with my own life when I stopped forcing myself to constantly see every person that I’ve ever met having babies and getting married, and getting great jobs, and taking luxury vacations around the world on a daily basis. Good for them. I’m not a hater- I have just chosen to stop letting other peoples progress make me feel like I’m lacking something, because IT’S NOT TRUE. I am happy and prayerful that they are living the life of their dreams. But in the grand scheme of things, THEIR lives and happiness have absolutely nothing to do with MINE and the path that God has for me.
………Because I am exactly where I am supposed to be, I have exactly what I am supposed to have, and I am doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing right now, at this moment, today.
I encourage you to choose happiness today. Money is not the solution to your problems; if it was millionaires wouldn’t be committing suicide. Marriage is not the solution to your problems; if it was we wouldn’t have so many people getting divorced. A new car is not the solution, liposuction is not the solution, a shopping spree is not the solution, and closure from the ex that broke your heart is not the solution. The void in your heart and that sinking feeling that you are falling behind can only be resolved with contentment, gratefulness, and the realization that you are exactly where GOD meant for you to be.You have 1,000 reasons to smile.
Proverbs 16:9 “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”
One time for the nation,